How to make adult female friends: a guide for awkward girlies
As a fellow awkward girly, I know the struggle of wanting to grab a coffee and debrief with a fellow hottie only to find out that you are the only hottie in your life.
I have made too many Pinterest boards of cool women hanging out with each other and now it is starting to feel like self-torture.
If you feel like me and want to end this perpetual cycle of loneliness keep reading because I have 4 tips that will surely help you!
Reach out to loose threads (regardless of what your ego might tell you)
Yes, I know… nobody wants to be the person to reach out.
It feels desperate and lonely
But I assure you it is worth it
Our Egos are truly our biggest enemies
Reaching out to old acquaintances is a great chance to recap on old conversations and reminisce old memories
It can also spark some new relations.
Stop overthinking and just go for it!
Say hi to a rando on the street. (hey, you never know what will happen)
I have recently made a few friendships using This method.
Whenever I would see a cool girl walking next to me on a street or hanging out in a coffee shop…I shoot my shot
I try to approach her with a question/compliment…preferably both at the same time!
Allow me to explain:
-hey, I just wanted to tell you your hair is really pretty. Is the color natural or did you dye it?
– omg! That is such a cool handbag, where did you get it from?
These are examples of questions I used as a conversation starter.
Try to ask some follow-up questions to keep the conversation going. If the other person is open they will also ask some questions.
And if they are not, THAT IS TOTALLY FINE! You will not lose anything. On the contrary, you will gain some sense of courage.
DO IT FOR THE PLOT!
Use online apps (yes they are not just for dating)
Who said online apps are only for dating?
Apps like Bumble have a bff option where you can meet fellow girlies in your city.
I sometimes use it when traveling to a new city for companionship.
There are many other apps like Friender, Skout, and Yubo!
I have only tried Bumble but if you tried other ones leave a comment and tell us about your experience!
Join that Yoga club! (friends and exercise? Sign me up!)
Two birds with one stone!
Some things are common sense but you still find a lot of people completely oblivious to it
YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF YOUR HOUSE TO MEET NEW PEOPLE!
It is unfortunately necessary!
Yes as I mentioned before you can use online apps.
However, experiencing real-life interactions is very important.
Joining a yoga club, pottery club or a pilates class is a good incentive to get out of the house
Try to sign up for a class or club that matches your interests, that way you will meet people that have things in common with you.
What’s also really good about this strategy is that you will be seeing them multiple times and that will allow for the relationship to develop and solidify!
Tell me if these tips have helped you in the comments! Best of luck!